SAME FAITH; SAME DOCTRINE
Yes! I know this sounds like I’m about to start preaching, but really, it’s just the title that came up in my head for this post. Basically, since we’re discussing dating tips, I’d like to discuss or share the reason(s) I think sharing the same faith and doctrine with your spouse is important in a relationship or while dating/courting.
Someone may be thinking “Does it really matter? I mean we’re just dating, right? So what’s the fuss about same doctrine or same faith?”
OK! First thing is this: Dating should come with a purpose! Dating shouldn’t be just because you want to be with someone or because you’re lonely and fed up with being in the singles zone, but because you’re trying to check your compatibility with the other person and getting to know them even better. You’re dating because you want to be sure that you can commit the rest of your entire life to someone else.
Now, this is one of the reasons you should date.
Doctrines/beliefs differ amongst various people. I’ll site some examples here….. “But in my own church, we don’t have to cover our hair, it doesn’t really matter, I mean after all we have hair on us…” “We don’t wear trousers in my church, it’s against the doctrines of the Bible. God condemns it”… ok, how about this…. “We fast every Sunday for service in my church, it’s one of the fundamental principles in my church”… “In my church, we observe Sabbath on Saturdays…” “Prophecies aren’t real, it’s just the imaginations of some people”….. Now this can go on and on for various people (some of you can relate to this in your present relationship or even that person you’re thinking about committing to)…
Let me take you further a bit in this scenario….
Child: Mom, will I be attending your church today or dad’s?… OR this
(At the shopping mall, husband notices daughters staring at some jean trouser collections, as a typical father, this ensues…)
Husband: Babe, let’s buy the girls get a jean trouser or two, it really doesn’t matter. Like my pastor was even sharing with us on Sunday that….
Wife: No dear, you know my stand on this. It is wrong, not Biblical at all. People who wear them are… (this couple here do not share the same doctrine: their beliefs and views on this matter differs, and it has definitely been an issue before this scene..)
Daughter: But mom, pleeeasseee, it’s really cool. All the girls at my school wear them for sports, and….
Now this conversation could go on and on like this, and may even n result in a serious disagreement in the home and other things. Imagine when these children grow up, what faith, ideologies and beliefs will they have from their upbringing. This is one very vital reason same faith and doctrine must be considered when dating.
I know this may even seem quite irrelevant to some, thinking that isn’t it the same God we serve? Is that not all that counts? Really, it may seem trivial, but regardless, it is important to ensure that you and your partner share the same faith, doctrine and belief.
Now I’m going to quote Amos 3:3 “Can two walk together except they agree?” Please think on this verse and think about the home you want to build… Is it the type where mom and dad go to different churches? Or the type where mom and dad do not pray in the same way, or one does not even believe in prayers at all? Or one where you and your spouse cannot agree on a thing simply because your faith differs? Please think about these things before you start courtship, if possible before you start dating. Find out these basic details.
I honestly didn’t intend to make this post a long one, take some time to read through and drop questions/contributions. Enjoy!