ATTENTION, LOVE AND ATTENTION…AGAIN.
Yeah, I know it may sound funny somewhat, but that’s what it is! Attention, Love, and Attention yet again.
The way man (here I mean male and female) is designed is to be loved and cared for. It’s an emotional need that cannot be overlooked. It’s not just enough to tell your partner those eight letters, three words “I love you”, you have to show it over and over and over and over and over and over again. You have to let them know it via your action; the things you do.
Now your choice or way of showing your spouse that you love them depends basically on you and your partner (here I’m gonna refer you to “The Five Love Languages By Gary Chapman”).
I once learnt from a psychologist friend of mine who had read from a writer (whose name I do not recollect here) that in a relationship, partners should say to each other the words “I love you” fourteen (14) times (you didn’t read that right FOURTEEN-14) daily each.
Yes, you, the female and the male of course, ensure you tell your man you love him fourteen whole times in one day, that is, ninety-eight times (98) a week! And in one year of dating, you should have told your partner that you love them five thousand and ninety-six (5,096) times! Yes, this is just how much man (male and female) need attention and love.
Like I stated before, it’s not just in the words alone, but in the action, the things you do for them, how you care for them, and show them you truly love and want to be there for them
Now guys! Try as much as possible to toast (woo) your girl/lady/woman every single day in your relationship. Try and win her love over and over again everyday (yes, I know you’ll say you have her love and she has yours), but still, you just have to keep it hot! Give her new reasons for loving you. Pay attention to her needs (here, I don’t mean financial needs, but emotional needs), listen to her when she talks, listen to what she didn’t say, listen to her when she says “Babe, there’s something what she didn’t say, listen to her when she says “Babe, there’s something bothering me” or when she says, “are you free?” et al. Let her know she can always talk to you about how and what she feels. Do not give her room to seek the ears of that other guy who also wants her. Yeah, I know most girls like to talk and whine, but it’s just their nature. KEY: LISTEN TO HER!
Girls/Ladies, pamper your man! Just like you always want to know that you are loved, guys also need to feel it and know it. They need to be told and showed. He needs to know that you support him, that you’ve got his back. Don’t tamper with his ego. Don’t make him feel like a second option. Don’t haul insults at him (that’ll bruise his ego), don’t make him feel less important in your life. Be there for him, listen to him, counsel and advice him. KEY: SUPPORT HIM!
I know sometimes it may be difficult or tough keeping up especially when both or one of the partners has this really busy schedule, but the social media can be to your advantage. Key here is learning to create time for the one whom you say you love.
I do hope you have enjoyed reading this dating tip, please drop your comments and contributions. Thank you.